Fashion/Lifestyle

DO IT THE HEART WAY

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First of all, sorry for not posting the last weeks, but I had so much going on! Exams, exams, exams and working on weekends. But now that everything went well, I have finally found some time to shoot this outfit for you!

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I’m too stubborn to let anything stop me. When I set my mind into doing something, I do it.

In general, most people are very positive and supportive about what I do. But still there are a few naysayers I’ve came across along the way. The last months a lot has been going on in my life and though I am kind of a relaxed person, I have to admit that I was pretty stressed out. I didn’t know how I could manage all of this without leaving anything behind – uni, relationships, family, friends, work, my blog… There were even some people who I was very close with, who couldn’t or didn’t want to support me in that whole blog thing, because they somehow felt intimidated by it, I don’t know. This person literally made me think for a second „what am I doing, maybe I should stop this and then everything will  be fine“.

But, only for a second.

How could I ever allow that someone makes me think, that I should stop doing what I love, just because this person doesn’t have passion for anything in life. Really sad I know, but true. It hurts when even strangers are more supportive than your closest ones – when actually they should be the ones who support you and be happy for you, instead of being jealous or whatever. Because, is there anything better than hearing people you love talk about something they’re really passionate about? The way their eyes light up when they talk about the things they love. When I started thinking about this, I realized that it’s better to cut those people off, who don’t see the value in you and don’t see the effort you’re putting into the things you love, or aren’t interested in it at all, just because they’re dissatisfied with their own life.  I’m not going to let other people’s negativity and insecurity stop me from doing what I want to do in life. I crave fiery passion. I don’t need a person as a filler. I need a person who is the firecracker, that makes me feel alive. And like Bukowski once said, I do not have time for things that have no soul.

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This might sound ridiculous now, but I had a really mind-changing conversation in the club with a special friend, I haven’t seen seen in months.  We talked for hours, I think, I even forgot that we’re actually in a club – I was just completely zoning out the people and the music around us. After seeing that one of the most important people in my life didn’t want to support what I’m doing , I completely forgot that there ARE actually people out there who appreciate what I do and know why I’m doing it. This conversation really opened my eyes.

In the days since, lots of things have started slotting into place and I see something so clearly now: I was a perfectionist, but more importantly, I’m someone who has unwittingly trained herself not to outshine. I have really been a People Pleaser and it doesn’t matter how much you love a person, but if this person makes you feel you did something bad, just because you go after what you want in life, LEAVE. Don’t use your time here to cater to other people’s egos by playing it small. Yes, it hurt, but I stood my ground because it was my character and my self-worth means more to me. It hurt, what was said, but not everyone you lose is a loss, believe it or not! The problem is, people aren’t liking the „no“, but that’s okay because I have a right to my feelings and a choice. No one can make me do something I don’t want to do. I am my best friend and if someone is not willing to let me have a voice, then I’d rather hang with myself than hang with drama.

Doing what you love in life is the most important thing. A person without passion for something is a lost soul, without any sense of purpose or direction. I won’t ever let people like that make me stop, because it’s the things I love that keep me going. My passion is what saves me from the world. I will  burn for the things I love.

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Sweater H&M
Skirt Mango
Bag Chanel
Shoes Zara

SLIP INTO SERENITY

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7am in the morning, staring into the blushing sky, as the sun begins to rise, taking that first  sip of my warm tea on a cold day, having 10 minutes of thinking about absolutely nothing, slipping into sweet serenity. I’ve set myself a goal at the beginning of this year – to find happiness. With a smile, I walked away from the idea of what people consider the path to hapiness – money, success, clothes, titles. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s time to cut to the chase and focus on what’s really important.

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A sunny day in the woods, people who remember the small things about you, tea and a good book on a rainy day, people who will love you harder on your darker days than on your sunny ones, conversations that make you forget – where you are, where you’ve been, who you were. Things that seperate the relevancy between existing here or somewhere else. And it so happens that I am elsewhere, everywhere but here.

Soon I would realize it’s the simplest things in life that bring happiness. Sometimes in the midst of chaos, life can be perfect for a split second. Live for those moments.

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Top Bershka
Pants Bershka
Shoes River Island
Bag Balenciaga

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DON’T LOOK LIKE ME LOOK LIKE YOU

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For many people fashion is just something you put on every morning when you get out of bed. It’s just clothing you randomly pick out of your closet and that’s it. Some people – or actually 99% of the people I meet – think that I’m a superficial person, because I’m always perfectly dressed up and styled (that’s what they say). But for me, fashion is far beyond clothing. It’s something I can express myself through. Sure I dress myself with clothes, but I also show who I am with it. And it’s not only about the things you wear – it also has to do with the ideas we have, the way we live and so on. And this is what so many people around me don’t understand.

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It’s not that I’m so superficial and I have to be fully dressed up wherever I go. It’s just me. How many times do I hear comments from people who come up to me and are like „hey your outfit is a little bit overdressed, isn’t it?“. Well, maybe it is for you, but this is who I am and if I wanna go to Mc Donald’s wearing my leather skirt and heeled boots well, then I’m gonna go and get myself a cheeseburger in my leather skirt and heeled boots, what you gonna do? :)

In my opinion, what you wear shows much about your personality and identity. I am not a typical girly-girl even if I might seem like one at first sight. I’m a very friendly and sensitive person with a slight touch of sarcasm. I am very lively and full of pep, sometimes a bit melancholy. I am pretty straight forward in my attitude and have no problem with standing out and showing who I am.

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But what if you don’t have a personality, do you just follow the crowd then? Nowadays, there are so many trends like – a special designer bag, ripped jeans, culottes whatever the hype might be right now. Everyone starts wearing it and that’s just fine for me, but the problem is: what most people (not only girls, but also boys!!) lack is their own sense of style. How often do I go through Instagram profiles from male and female bloggers and sometimes I don’t even know which person’s profile I am watching anymore. Everyone looks the same!!

And this is something I am slowly getting tired of. Fashion is not something you do, it is what you ARE. So in my opinion, it shouldn’t be something that owns you, but rather something you own and express yourself through. Go into trends, but wear it your own personal way and make it something special. Be different in a world full of copies – be YOU!!

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Top H&M
Skirt H&M
Cardigan H&M
Shoes Sartori Gold
Bag MCM
Glasses Hugo Boss
Men’s collection, stolen from my boyfriend :)

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